Jedi Nanny: Preparing for a Professional Professional Interview.

December 2, 2009

So, you’ve wowed your potential employers with your resume, you have clean background checks and your First Aid/CPR/Vaccination records in hand and you’re ready to start interviewing! Hooray! Now to ace the interview… Or… not.

The first thing you need to keep in mind about nanny interviews is that you can. not. game. the interview. All of those strategies you hear about for other interviews – know about the company, ask why the position is vacant, etc. DO. NOT. APPLY. If you know anything about your employers beforehand, you’re kind of a creepy stalker person. Do not ask why they don’t want to continue with the childcare they have now. They will tell you if you need to know, otherwise you’re inviting them to smack talk their previous nanny/day care/grandmother, and that’s not the way to start off a working relationship. You may want to dress to impress… but my best interviews were conducted wearing jeans. Nice jeans. And loafers. But still – I was dressed so that when the four year old child I work with now asked me to paint with him, I was ready. Slightly worried about my shirt, but ready. Don’t go in your sweats, look nice, but do not wear a lot of make up or anything that you can’t bend down or pick up a child in. Not that you’d have to do those things on an interview, but you need to be able to. My go-to outfit is jeans, ballet flats or loafers, black t-shirt dress or white button-up shirt, pearl necklace, beaded earrings, and a bracelet. I do wear a small amount of perfume and make-up on interviews but never on the job. (I’m all up in a baby’s face all day long. He really doesn’t require that I smell like roses.)

If you have a visible piercing, TAKE IT OUT. If you have a visible tattoo, COVER IT UP. I used to have a lip ring (back when I taught preschool) and have since removed it and found that parents do indeed take me 900x more seriously without it. Don’t do anything to give even the subconscious impression that you are going to leave work and go to a biker bar. Again, whether or not parents should care whether their nanny whose idea of a good time is a crossword puzzle has a giant nautilus tattoo is irrelevant – the salient factor here is to create the best first impression possible, which involves mitigating any factors that could potentially make a parent uneasy. If you have pink hair, don’t go out and dye it just for an interview if you’re really dead set on keeping your hair pink, but recognize that it will make the process more difficult to find a family who wants a pink-haired nanny.

The nanny interview process is more like dating than it is like other job searches. You’re looking to find a family that you have chemistry with, and that’s not something you’re going to be able to do via a kickass resume (which you should have) and a snazzy cover letter (which should be able to write in your sleep blindfolded with both arms tied behind your back). The process TAKES. TIME. Be prepared. If you have a definite end date for your job, start your search for a new family at least three months ahead of time. Keep in mind that most families start their interview processes at least six weeks in advance and that a family that really wants YOU will make arrangements for childcare until you are available. (Don’t push it, but if you know you’re going to end in March and you interview in January, the family will find something to do in February – just don’t keep them waiting until April.) If you’re working a job where you haven’t given notice, or you don’t have a specific end date, start your search with the time frame in mind that this will take at least two months. I did at least two months of solid interviewing before landing either of my jobs. (And ironically, after I accepted my positions, I was offered other jobs that I’d interviewed for. Such is life.) This is the bare minimum. If your job ends before you’ve found a full-time gig with the right family, temping is a good short term solution to ease the stress of “ZOMG. MUST PAY RENT.”

I can see the gears in your head wondering how you’re going to take time off work for interviews while you’re still working. Simple. You interview on the weekends. This is often better for families looking for prospective nannies as they don’t have to find childcare to cover the interview period or take time off of work themselves. A lot of families also conduct interviews in the evening for the same reason.

If you can, do two interviews. Interview the first time outside of the home with one or both parents, but without the children. It is so overwhelming for everybody to have a new grown-up in a room and try to figure out the chemistry between prospective nanny and children and still get the important interview questions answered. My Boston work-family interview was conducted with mom & kids and went just fine, but I’ve been to plenty where it’s been an absolute zoo. And of course, if the kids go mental because it’s raining or they have a stomachache or they’re overwhelmed or anything, the parents will be less likely to hire you because they may believe (rightly or not) that you were creating the disturbance in the force. If you have a first interview with just the parents and then kids go batty when you meet them at the second interview, it will be easier for the parents to judge if you don’t have the right chemistry with the child or if the child is simply upset because life is hard. The second interview should be held in the home, if possible, so that you can see the kids in their “natural environment” and so that the children aren’t disoriented by a strange place in addition to a strange person.

Remember that you’re interviewing with the parent, not the child. Tempting as it is to suck up to the child or just spend the whole interview playing, your relationship with the parent is what’s important at this stage. You and the child need to be able to understand and trust each other, but right now, you have to be sure that the parent will be able to trust having you in their home every single day taking care of their children. It’s easy to forget what a HUGE responsibility this actually is, and in the interview stage, your job is alleviate any fears that your parents might have from whatever horror stories they’ve heard or experienced.

Take your time. If you have experience, a clean background, a love for children, and patience, you WILL find the right family. Don’t push it and don’t take the first job that comes along if you feel like you and that family would be more like oil and water than salt and vinegar. Remember that no interview is a “failure” and there wasn’t something you necessarily could have done better (unless you’re five minutes late because you didn’t have the mom’s cellphone number – not that that happened to anyone I know), it just wasn’t the right family. Interviews are exactly like a first date, except that instead of dating, you rush right into being “married.” As a nanny, you’re not a part of the family (and shouldn’t be, unless you actually ARE family), but you’re a part of the household and that’s a serious commitment.


2 Responses to “Jedi Nanny: Preparing for a Professional Professional Interview.”

  1. george Says:

    keep these up, and you’re going to find yourself with a book deal.

    I have zero interest in being a nanny or having one, but you’ve got so much good info here, clearly and coherently presented. If I *were* trying to be a nanny, I would probably be browsing amazon for a book with all this information.

    • Sonja Says:

      I’m not angling for a book deal – mostly, I’d like to create useful content and maybe have some people find my blog for something *other* than my views on Cinderella (which, according to my stats, is my main draw right now) – but I also know that I *have* tried to find a book with this type of info in it and that it does not exist. Not from the nanny side anyway. All the info I’ve gotten is from the parents’ side – even Super Nanny’s book is *for parents.* Geez. I guess she’s really keen on making sure the rest of us remain Just Pretty Great Nanny, But Not Really Super.

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